You Are Dying!
- Aug 8, 2014
- 3 min read
You Are Dying...
Yes, that's right- you are dying, right now, we all are! I know you know that, and I know you don't want to think about it because it's depressing. But, actually it's not depressing, it is empowering!
Dying is a certainty we all need to confront, think about, and remember every day.
I am reminding you, telling you now so that if a Dr should tell you those same words you will have lived the life you want and deserve. You may not even hear those words again, so take heed!
You are dying!
Last night I watched the final episode of The Big C- extremely poignant for me. I cried hysterically and let go of grief I didn't realise I'd been holding on to.
Laura Linney is absolutely incredible in The Big C (Emmy for Best Actress well deserved!) and the series does a marvelous job of drawing us in, a passive family member, along for the ride on the emotional roller-coaster of life.
I'm sure everyone can relate to The Big C and sadly has probably been affected by it in someway. I have lost dear friends and witnessed friends of mine suffering the loss of people close to them.
Last year I lost a client to the big C, who had become a dear friend. I was helping her to downsize and move home while in remission. Sadly her cancer came back and quickly spread to her brain. I spent almost every day with her during the last year of her life.
I am so thankful for that time, she and the big C taught me a lot about life.. and death.
Louise made everyone feel as if they were the most important person in the world. She worked hard as a Dr (until she fell ill) but she certainly knew how to have fun too! Louise loved to travel, run for fun and fitness, she wore bright lippy, she found any excuse to celebrate and have a glass of Champagne and would give you the shirt from her back if you needed it or she thought it would look better on you. She had a wonderful knack of making everyone feel special and seeing the beauty in everything.
One thing I've noticed in my limited experience of the imminently dying is the desperate attempt to get everything in order and enjoy as much of life as possible.
We need to live like this every day! Let go of ego and fill your life with love, laughter and happiness.
Lately I have slipped back into old habits, taking life for granted but Laura Linney's wonderful character 'Cathy' in The Big C has reminded me of my dear friend Louise and that in fact, life isn't a game... but should be played as one!
We all have responsibilities, bills to pay, families who rely on us but I urge you to really think about the choices you make, get to know yourself and what makes you happy and do your best to do these things as much as possible. Find quiet time to be alone, meditate and get back to you, without distractions.
I'm not suggesting shirking your responsibilities and letting others down in the process but...
Go, now! Go and do the things you've always wanted to do. Learn that language, instrument or subject you've "not had time" for. Run that marathon, eat that cake, pick up the phone and tell someone you love them!
Find your happiness in your wonderful life...
You are dying!
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